“What’s the greatest lesson a woman should learn?  That since day 1 she’s already had everything she needs within herself.  It’s the world that convinced her she did not,” – Rupi Kaur 



I am excited to be writing this special post in honor of it being National Eating Disorders Awareness week.  If you’ve been reading the blog, you probably already know I’m a junkie for all things body positive {#bopo}.

Since, let’s face it, we’re living in an Instagram society where it’s virtually impossible to not compare ourselves to internet strangers.  Whether or not you have experienced the pain of a clinical eating disorder, or just get down on yourself when you go up a dress size/eat too much pizza, you’re not alone in the body image battle department.

I recently read the book ‘When Food is Love‘, by the incredible Geneen Roth, who explains that Americans spend $33 billion a year on losing weight.  Twenty million women have eating disorders.  50% of all women are on a diet.  And for those who fail on a diet this year, there will be 30,000 new diet plans next year to choose from.  “Diets don’t work because food and weight are symptoms, not the problem,” she says.

As women, we are overloaded with images of what we “should” look … i..e:  taller, thinner, nicer hair, more exotic, longer eyelashes, bigger boobs, nicer butt.  You get the drift!  Pretty sure this laundry list can go on virtually forever.

But what the mirror/scale can’t show you is who you really are; a devoted mother, a hilarious friend, an adventurous soul.  Sometimes when we get overly caught up in appearances it becomes IMPOSSIBLE to be present in our lives.  And then we miss things, big things, little things, … everything.

It’s not our fault, it’s pretty much the nature of the society we live in.  And who doesn’t want to feel beautiful?  Trust me, I get it.  This blog is devoted to fashion + beauty.  But, none of those things can/will ever bring you happiness in the body you’re in.  Sure, a sexy crop-top + some awesome lipgloss can get you lookin’ fine … but they’re not the be all end all of your self-worth.

Let’s be honest, life can be friggen hard sometimes.  It can can be overwhelming, things can get tight financially, you may lose someone you love, maybe you’ll get your heart badly broken.  It’s natural to turn to outside sources for comfort + validation … mozzarella sticks, Facebook likes, shopping sprees, your boyfriend/mom/bestie, or a few excessive glasses of wine ;).

Sometimes it’s just too hard to sit with the uncertainties of life, so we run towards our comfort sources to numb out.  And they save us, but only temporarily.  This is totally something I still do, more often than I would like!  But, at the end of the day, we can only run for so long and end up only with ourselves to come back home to.

This week is about way more than eating disorder awareness, it’s about realizing we are all worthy of self-care + the love we sometimes crave so badly from “out there“.  I challenge you this week to look inside a little more, and when you’re ready to sprint away from all of life’s troubles (because there will always be something to pine over), just connect back within.

Ask yourself what you need, and don’t feel afraid to face it.  Listen to the voice inside that wants to care for you, not destroy you.

Remember, you are so much more important than any number on the scale + there’s no wrong way to have a body.

Use the #BodyCheerleaders to spread some extra bopo this week, you never know who might need it :).  And thank you endlessly for being a reader, it means the world to me!  xo.

PS:  Explore some of books below, they are my absolute favorites.


Love your biggest cheerleader,

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If this post added a little pep to your step then stay in the know! YAS it’s free ;)

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  • Lorraine Cicchino


    Love the blog and open forum you’ve created for women. We can face our fears and own who we are while finding comfort in our oneness as a community. Much love, good job.


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